Relationships are sweet, comforting and a warm blanket with which we can insulate ourselves from the everyday problems that life throws our way. A warm pair of arms to embrace you, a sympathetic ear to listen, a hand to hold and a heart to pair with your own. But while we all hope to find the love of our lives, some relationships are finite. There comes a time when we realize that we’re putting in way more than we’re getting out, we’re being taken for granted or even being exploited. When this happens, it takes a colossal amount of fortitude to end the relationship and attempt to carve out a new life for ourselves. Yet, we know that for the sake of our own wellbeing (and, in all fairness your partner’s) the right thing to do is to end the relationship that will never align with what you want from life.
When this happens, it’s normal to experience a period of mourning and even yearning. Psychologists believe that love stimulates our brain in the same way that addiction does, and when we’re deprived of someone we’ve loved we can experience a form of emotional cold turkey. You need to take matters into your own hands, draw a line under your experiences, forge onwards and reinvent yourself… But how?
Move to somewhere new
Is it an extreme measure? Sure, but in some cases, it may be the surest way to move on. If everything from the home you shared to the restaurants you frequented and the movie theatres you used to go to together remind you too much of your ex, a clean slate in a new home may be the best course of action. Call up Bekins Moving Solutions and set your sights on somewhere new. You’ll be able to draw a clear line under your old life and be whoever you want to be. Make new friends, try new things, go to new places… You may just like who you become a whole lot more. Also, chatting with a mental health counselor can help you turn your break-up into a breakthrough.
Change your hair
Your hair is one of the first things people notice about you and rightly or wrongly, it’s likely a big part of how you’re identified. If you’re looking for a way to look in the mirror and see someone new… but unmistakably you looking back, the hair is the best place to start. Since summer still has a few good days left in her, now might be the best time to try some of the seasons hottest hairstyles.
Change your makeup
Sometimes it’s nice to get back to beauty basics. Trying new makeup colors, brands and finishes or trying your existing makeup out in different ways can be a great way to subtly tweak your appearance. Makeup doesn’t change your face but it does accentuate what’s already there. A session with a gifted makeup artist can help you to see yourself in a whole new light.
Start a new hobby
We all know how learning new skills, meeting new people and finding talents and abilities that we never knew we had are all great ways to rediscover ourselves. With this in mind, what better way to reinvent yourself than by learning a new hobby?
Just because your relationship has ended doesn’t mean that you don’t deserve a brand new lease on life!